A Memoir

How to Lose
a Life You Love

A memoir of conditioning, collapse, and sovereignty, for anyone who built a life that looked right from the outside and felt like a cage from the inside.

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Mike Karame, author portrait

I spent years building a life around freedom, achievement and self-reliance. Then, in my late forties, almost all of it came apart in Australia, quietly and out of public view.


This book is about what was lost,
and what was actually mine to keep.

A memoir about what collapse reveals when the life we built can no longer hold us, and the quieter, harder work of sovereignty on the other side of it.

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Available on Google Play Books in ebook and audiobook editions.

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Reviews & Praise

“Candid, informative, insightful, thought-provoking, and an inherently compelling read from start to finish”

Midwest Book Review · October 2026
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Interviews & Conversations

In Conversation

Conversations about identity, loss, conditioning and the freedom to begin again.

MID-LIFE MEN PODCAST · 20 OCTOBER 2026

What Happens When Starting Again Goes Wrong?

With host Philip Briscoe. A conversation about starting over, losing a familiar identity and reconsidering what freedom means.

MOTIVATED MASCULINE MEN · RECORDED 8 OCTOBER 2026

What Does Freedom Mean When Everything Falls Apart?

With host Chris Chandler-Yates. A conversation about masculinity, identity, relationships, failure, self-reliance and rebuilding a life on your own terms.